Actually, I’m 34, but don’t tell anyone.

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When it comes to basic life knowledge I’ve been what you can call a slow learner. Naturally self-absorbed and even narcissistic at times, I haven’t made the best student.

Still, there is hope for me yet as I continue to grow and improve, here, in no particular order are 5 things I wish I had learned before I hit the not-so-big 3-O.

Saying yes and agreeing with everyone in my life got me in some questionable situations when I was in my twenties. I ended up drinking too much, hanging around the wrong types of people, and lost sight of…

Lazy, desperate people are gullible and I was one of them

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I say lazy because I wasn’t willing to put hard work into where it mattered. Instead, I concentrated my efforts on stupid myths and shortcuts. But guess what?

There are no shortcuts to living a healthy lifestyle.

Most of these I followed when I was young, impressionable, and kind of dumb. I was looking for a quick and easy fix to what would become a lifelong journey. Some of these were encouraged by well-meaning friends, societal pressures, my own vanity, and plain ignorance.

Disclaimer: If you’re looking to lose weight and be healthy consult with a licensed professional, which I…

Even non-horror fans are aware of the classics but here’s a fresher look at the genre

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Everyone recommends the classics: Dracula, The Haunting of Hill House, The Exorcist, The Shining, Ghost Story, Frankenstein, anything by Poe, etc.

And I agree, these are good books in their own right and some defined the genre but they may not work for all modern audiences. Some of these were written hundreds of years ago and yes, they still hold up today but aren’t exactly easy to read.

A few months ago I read Misery by Stephen King. It’s only the 2nd book of his I’ve read (yes, a horror fan who isn’t obsessed with King, we do exist) and…

For fiction and non-fiction writers

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The horror genre as a whole tends to get a bad rep amongst general readers. It isn’t for everyone but all writers, both fiction and non-fiction, could benefit from reading it every now and then. But of course, you have to be open-minded. Exploring the darker side of literature will open ideas and themes you may not have considered before, which will inspire your own writing.

Most writers are also prolific readers, as they should be. Reading for writers is all a part of the workout. To improve you have to study others who are better and sometimes worse than…

A satirical job post

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Are you a writer looking for steady pay even though that pay is cheap AF? Can you write a perfect, concise, well-researched 3,000 word article on any topic in an hour? Are you desperate for a writing job and will basically take anything at this point to prevent from starving to death?

If you answered yes to any of these questions then we are the company for you!

Here at The Vaguely Named Content Mill, we aim to hire expert writers with little to no experience and make sure they get paid! …

Making your bed every morning isn’t one of them.

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Businesses hark on productivity all the time. They are always looking for ways to get the most done in the shortest amount of time to make or save money.

But you are a person, not a business. Sure, you may run one or work for one, but there’s more to you than work and money. Still, you want to improve, you want to be better, to get more out of life, and not feel like you’re draining every last bit of your soul to do it.

There are tons of tips and tricks for being more productive. From making your…

When I first started writing online I struggled a lot with hitting the publish button. I wrote a ton of articles or started to write them but then stopped and never published them. Why? Because I was using my real name and for some reason, that didn’t sit right with me.

The first article I ever wrote got curated but instead of being happy I felt anxious and had a knot in my chest. What if someone I knew read it? No one in my personal life knows about my writing ambitions and I don’t want them to know. …

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When I first started writing online I pretty much avoided publications. That is, I didn’t make much of an effort to write for them. Why? The main reason was fear. I was afraid my writing would get rejected.

Occasionally, I’d post an article and one would ask me to add it to their publication. I figured this was how it worked. That they would all flock to me. Yes, naive used to be my middle name. Eventually, I realized that if you want your writing posted in publications, you will have to go to them.

A lot of them. Some…

All you have to do is look to your own writing to find new ideas for future articles. Doing this will keep your writing sustainable by providing a consistent flow of ideas without too much hassle.

They say ideas are a dime a dozen. Anyone can have an idea, it’s following through with it that’s the real challenge. But what if coming up with ideas is your challenge?

You think and you think, but you’re still stumped on what to write. The professional writers are telling you that writer’s block is a myth. …

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You’ve often heard that in order to achieve a goal you need to give it your all. 110% or why even bother. In theory, this sounds like a great motivator but in truth, it has little practical sustainability. Much like motivation itself, all-or-nothing thinking has its uses but it's not always reliable.

When you approach goals or tasks with an all-or-nothing mentality you are boxing yourself into a rigid way of thinking. It allows no mistakes or variations and will only recognize perfection instead of effort and growth.

Sounds pretty exhausting.

The all-or-nothing approach also doesn’t prepare you for when…

Jessica Holman

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